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Yesterday I had the pleasure of speaking at the Recognition Luncheon for Ombudsman Volunteers as part of the Minnesota Age and Disabilities Odyssey Conference in Duluth, Minnesota. Ombudsmen and volunteers work with individuals and their families to ensure the health, safety and WELL-BEING of residents in long-term care facilities. I am pleased to share that the 30 volunteers recognized for their many hours of service, were also gifted with a copy of If Only You Would Ask. What a great feeling to know that our book is being used by this organization to bring joy to many!! Thank you Office of Ombudson Long-Term Care!! Joan Bachman

Just to let you know I got some good feed back on your book at our Stephen Minister’s meeting last night. Two people mentioned that they had learned so much about their care-receiver at their recent funerals and wished they had had your book and asked them some of the questions before they passed. Also another lady said your book will be going on her coffee table on Thanksgiving in hopes that her family will ask her some of the questions!
We hope you, John and your spunky mother are all doing well.

We are happy to report that a number of volunteer organizations have written grants to cover the cost of ordering a copy of If Only You Would Ask for all of their volunteers.  This book makes a great gift for anyone who spends time with the elderly.  Substantial discounts are available for orders of over 50 books.  The more you order, the greater the discount!

Contact Joan Bachman at or 507-358-5792 for details.

NCC18 Presenters: Eileen Opatz Berger and Joan Berger Bachman

Join Eileen and Joan for their session during our Third Annual National Caregiving Conference:

If Only You Would Ask: A Guide to Spending Quality Time with the Elderly on Friday at 5 p.m.
When visiting or caring for an elderly relative or friend, are you often at a loss for what to talk about? After the initial pleasantries, do the minutes/hours drag on? You may very well love this person, but find yourself struggling to carry on a conversation. Moments of silence seem endless. If Only You Would Ask: A Guide to Spending Quality Time with the Elderly transforms this situation!

Five years in the making, If Only You Would Ask is a conversational manual, a resource, and a tool for those who spend time with and care for the elderly. No longer will you find yourself struggling to think of something interesting to talk about. With 42 topics and over 400 questions, If Only You Would Ask provides a framework for tapping into memories that may not have been thought about or talked about for years. You and the person you are visiting care for will both enjoy your time together. In fact, you will look forward to your next get together. conversation.

Everyone has stories to share, if only we ask the right questions! For more information visit our website at

To learn more about Joan, watch our video discussion about finding our best, which aired as part for our Virtual Caregiving Summit in May.

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Eileen was a featured author at the Tucson Book Fair in March.  Wheatmark Publishers has a booth at the fair and published authors are invited to promote their books.  Attended by thousands of book lovers, it was an opportunity to spread the word about If Only You Would Ask.  Special thanks to family friend Marilyn Mosio Grass who was Eileen's #1 promotional assistant!

I'm happy to report that Mayo Clinic Radio will be broadcasting our interview regarding If Only You Would Ask tomorrow morning, Saturday, February 10th! You can hear it locally on KROC-AM between 9:00-10 a.m. Central Time. Other Mayo Clinic Radio affiliates, which carry the program at various times can be found at

According to Jen O'Hara, Producer Mayo Clinic Radio, our You Tube video was their MOST WATCHED last month!!
And, here’s the link to the You Tube video just in case you haven't seen it!

Thanks for all the great support. We appreciate you spreading the word about our book. Joan and Eileen

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